I’ve been a bit down on myself lately, what with the job and other things going on in my life. In the past, I’d often relied on watching shows like Girls or trashy reality television like Millionaire Matchmaker to boost my waning confidence. “I’m not perfect,” I’d think to myself, “but at least I’m not that bad.” And yet, as I get older, the comparisons seem to be wearing thin. A self-esteem built on comparison is a fragile one, to say the least.
So instead of tearing others down, I want to list the things I’m genuinely proud of to build myself up. Alright, here it goes:
- I willed myself into getting into a well-ranked college and graduating, thus securing for myself a base level of economic comfort.
- I deprogrammed myself from the toxic behaviors I learned in my childhood and have found a core set of genuinely good people that I love having in my life.
- I have taken forced myself to take risks, like buying and renovating this condo and quitting my job even before I had anything lined up, which have forced me to grow and realize most people don’t (and probably can’t) have everything figured out before moving forward.
- I have consistently stuck to an exercise regime which has helped me to feel strong and healthy in a way that I wouldn’t have expected for myself just a few years ago.
- I have maintained strong financial discipline which will likely mean I can retire decades early and allow me to spend the bulk of my kids’ childhoods really focusing on our time as a family.
- Meanwhile, I have also been able to be generous with my money and my time in a way that makes me feel I am making a difference.
- I have grown the capacity to appreciate and care for people who are very different from me.
What are you proud of?